Octuplets + twins + 4 singletons + mom + crappy IVF doctor = ?

Everyone has an opinion right? Going through ttc for the past 2 years has elicited a rainbow of emotions, some of which I didn't know I was capable of expressing. However, I'm trying to figure out how I feel about the Suleman mother of now 14 children. I think part of me is jealous, part of me is angry that she is so "la la, I'm in my own world because deep down I have unresolved childhood issues that I never addressed and now I have 14 children, no steady income, a plan to use student loans to feed my 14 children and I see nothing wrong with this picture but I spent $100k on IVF treatments at a shitty clinic with crappy birth/pregnancy rates but I never thought to save any of that money I earned from a disability claim for a rainy day or to support my already 6 children" attitude about the the whole thing and the other part is annoyed with the doctor who put back 6 embryo's. After reading an article, I wonder if he was desperate to increase his pregnancy/birth rate.

Last night I got into a one sided argument with my father about this. I say it was one sided because I refused to engage in it. My dad is Jamaican and not to stereotype but there are a lot of strong beliefs about family, same sex couples, etc with that culture. While I love my dad, I realize that part of his thoughts and beliefs are based upon never having to experience what I'm going through. We both agreed that the doctor was irresponsible. However, my dad seems to think that every child should have a mother and father to raise them and that people shouldn't spend hundreds (ha ha, if he even knew- make that thousands) of dollars on fertility procedures. The kicker was the comment (x2) about how proud he was of my brother for having a (traditional) family. I left the conversation feeling wounded. I recently disclosed to my mother that I was ttc and I think she told my dad. This conversation about the Suleman woman was his way of telling me he didn't approve of what I was doing but I digress, because my days of doing everything to please my parents are long gone. Yet why do I feel incredibly guilty about it?

Anyway, check out the article. Dateline has an interview with Ann Curry tonight at 10pm. The fertility clinic the woman went to sucked. It has a horrible pregnancy and birth rate. The article I read said of 52 IVF procedures done in 2006, only 5 resulted in pregnancies and 2 resulted in live births. Maybe I need to have a work injury to afford IVF (note sarcasm). I'm sorry, I'm trying to come to some conclusion about this woman possibly being a victim of her doctor's malpractice? What do you think?